"I'm not enough" vs. "It's not enough"

by Agakura Viñas Burihabwa
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I deeply believe in healthy self-reflection.
In honestly assessing how we show up and owning our part.

And yet, there is a trend I’ve seen again and again in me, and in the sensitive, brilliant women I’m blessed to talk to and work with:

We turn reflection into self-punishment.
Into shame and blame.

And we do it at the very first opportunity.

A deal falls through?
“Obviously, my offer isn’t good enough..”
A small audience?
“What was I even thinking when I offered this…”
A project doesn’t go as planned?
“Just stick to what you know.”

Does that voice sound familiar?

If so, imagine that these are just a few ways we talk ourselves out of our brilliance.

And… is it possible that you are not the problem?

Is it possible the people who did show up to the event were the exact ones who were ready, and the ones who didn’t would have turned the whole thing into a chewy experience?
Is it possible the client who didn’t sign up was someone who would have drained you?

What’s the truth here?
Am I not good enough… or was it not good enough for me?

What if sometimes, the life you’re living is simply not living up to who you are?

Asking this question has been key when it comes to reconnecting with my true identity in life and in business.

Years ago, when I was still performing, I said yes to every free “you’ll get visibility” gig.
I just wanted to deliver.
To please.
To show I was serious about my work.
And I’ll never forget arriving at yet another free performance,
only to discover the organiser had completely forgotten about it.

My “scenario voice” kicked in immediately.
The familiar pull toward shame, toward “I should’ve known and done better,”toward convincing myself that the disrespect was somehow my fault.

But for the first time, another voice rose up from deep within me.
A quiet, sovereign knowing.

“Was what they were offering you good enough?”
And the clear answer was: no, it wasn’t.

That moment was a quiet homecoming.

Today, I’d like to invite you to start rewriting the story by shifting your gaze away from shame and blame, and toward discernment and
self-respect, making them your confidantes on your journey back home to you.

You see, discernment and self-respect aren’t luxuries.
They are the compass that guides you back home to your true being-
in life, in leadership, and in the legacy you’re here to create.

If you’re ready to stop shrinking to fit a life that was never built for your depth, I’m here to walk with you.

I’m Agakura, and I help sensitive women entrepreneurs go from invisible to unmistakable by coming home to themselves and standing unshakably in their truth in love, life, and legacy.

Here’s to your homecoming,
Agakura